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Originally posted by notfarnow
great advice...
A little background: We've been good friends for 10 years, been a couple for 4 years, and have lived together for 4 years. We own a house together as well.
She's an excellent communicator... much better than me. When my lack of communication became a barrier on a couple issues, we went to counselling. I wasn't particularly excited to do that, for fear that I would be found to be "at fault"... err... which I was. In the end, I was just as glad to get through that early on.
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Sounds to me like you're already married. The second paragraph tells me your marriage has a good chance of making it once you formalize it. Marriages take work, humility, and compromise. If you try hard and stay faithful, she will continue to be the beautiful woman you went on that first date with-no matter how old you both are. It's a wonderful thing.
Lots of really great advice above-I'm impressed. One that stands out to me, but certainly isn't superior to the other great advice is:
911 Rob said-
"Take advise ONLY from people who have what you want. No offense to divorsed or broken couples, those things happen; but dont take advise from someone who doesn't love his wife. Period. You dont want to know what they know."
Kind of like mountain biking-look where you want to go, not where you don't want to go. That kind of negativity can be infectious and really bring a couple down. Stay away!
Good luck and Congrats!