[Moses]

Originally posted by COLDBASS
Sounds like some mental health issues on the wifes side...

Let's see... Her father had a sexual identity crisis and is now gay. Mom is bipolar. Brother is a pedophile. And the wife nurtures these disfunctional relationships because???

Dependent Personality: The Submissive Pattern

"Dependent personalities are distinguished from other pathological patterns by their marked need for social approval and affection, and by their willingness to live in accord with the desires of others. Dependent persons' "centers of gravity" lie in others, not in themselves. They adapt their behavior to please those upon whom they depend, and their search for love leads them to deny thoughts and feelings that may arouse the displeasure of others. They avoid asserting themselves lest their actions be seen as aggressive. Dependents may feel paralyzed when alone and need repeated assurances that they will not be abandoned. Exceedingly sensitive to disapproval, they may experience criticism as devastating.

Dependent personalities tend to denigrate themselves and their accomplishments. What self-esteem they possess is determined largely by the support and encouragement of others. Unable to draw upon themselves as a major source of comfort and gratification, they must arrange their lives to ensure a constant supply of nurturance and reinforcement from their environment. However, by turning exclusively to external sources for sustenance, dependents leave themselves open to the whims and moods of others. Losing the affection and protection of those upon whom they depend leads them to feel exposed to the void of self-determination. To protect themselves, dependents quickly submit and comply with what others wish, or make themselves so pleasing that no one could possibly want to abandon them.

Dependents are notably self-effacing, obsequious, ever-agreeable, docile, and ingratiating. A clinging helplessness and a search for support and reassurance characterize them. They tend to be self-depreciating, feel inferior to others, and avoid displaying initiative and self-determination. Except for needing signs of belonging and acceptance, they refrain from making demands on others. They deny their individuality, subordinate their desires, and hide what vestiges they possess as identities apart from others. They often submit to abuse and intimidation in the hope of avoiding isolation."