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Daddy.......Married or not, U are gona be a Daddy.....nobody can ever take that responsibility away from U. It is a responsibility that yu will have untill everyone who ever knows your child is in the ground...

Marriage is a social convention...it does have benfits for the child..psychologicaly etc...and for the Mother...it is a responsibility for U as well as potential benfit

Too many marriages end in divorce...the business end of what you have aqquired has to be addressed to protect yourself...as tough of a proposition as that maybe

It's like boxing protect yourself at all times...one day I woke up with a great amount of responsibility...if I don't take care of business no one else will do it for me...the same applies here no one is going to take care of what you need as an indivdual except yourself....as much as parents will sacrafice for the sake of their children...you still have a life to lead a destiny to fulfill..

I guess the question U have to answer for yourself. and I would give it a little time....is do U love the Mother to be...does she brighten up your life...

I have long felt that that the only thing you can guarntee is what you bring to the table...in this case U love her....and if she says and her actions show that she loves you in return...go for it...

U mentioned a couple of things that lead me to believe there are some doubts in your mind.....Her profession doesn't pay well...that can be remedied if the desire is there on her part...you mentioned drinking, tax and credit problem in the past...which indicates from this vantage point unstabilty in this person...has this person matured and grown up and is respnsible now? The past 5 years of behavior is a good indication....

Sometimes I see that a person will come into a persons life that provides stability for that person...and that person becomes dependent upon that person for stabilty..and if that stabilizing person should go away that person will become unstable again...there are alot of long term marriages like that. btw....the stabilizing person usually dies first....from this vantage point of not knowing either you or the other person this is a question/observation I have...

My hope is that both of you are complete enough to be able to fly on your own if necessary..have met...and decide to fly together..that is the best possible world...