[Joeaksa]

If you have been together for 4 years and were planning on being together in the future, why the question about getting married? The child aside, if there were no major problems in the relationship (and if there were you probably would not have stayed together this long) whats holding you back?

Like Flint, I am kinda old fashioned and feel that if you are going to live with someone more than a few months and really love and respect the person, get married. Now that a child is in the mix it makes it even more important. Do you want the child to eventually (and it will happen) look at their birthday and ask why Mommy and Daddy were not married until after they were born?

Regarding the prenup. Do either of you own a lot of stuff that is worth a lot of money or family heirlooms that cannot be replaced? Then do a prenup, but if its just household items and some "stuff" then its not worth the trouble IMHO. Would have to be some real valuable items to make it worth bringing up for me.

Good luck and hope we hear from you guys in 30-40 years saying that your child is getting married and you bought them a new 911 as a present!

Joe A