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Do not get married for your child's sake. You can still be a wonderful father. I went through a divorce with two young kids. Divorces are no fun, aside from the financial black hole they leave you in. You said you don't want to get married. Then don't. A ton of people that WANT to get married end up getting a divorce. Going into a marriage when you're not really sure is definitely spelling disaster. Being married does not make you a better father. Most may think I'm jaded because I went through a divorce--I'm not. I'm remarried and everything is fantastic. You get married because you want to, not because social norms suggest that you do. You have a major commitment to your baby. That needs to be the #1 priority. You don't have to give up your life just because you're going to be a dad. It's a balance. You can't define your life by your child's. Again, it's a balance. Congratulations. A child is an amazing thing. Don't get married if you don't want to. It's 2005. That baby isn't going to be loved any less by its parents just because they're not married.
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