IROC's excellent advice:
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My advice - keep being the same parent you've always been. Don't change anything. Be fair, be honest and be truthful and in the end your relationship with your kid(s) will be fine.
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On the other hand this is exactly what you want to avoid- the JIMCRY method:
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It is up to the judge. If mom screws up or the kids want to be somewhere other than with you during your parenting time, you say; "Son, let's ask the judge what to do about this. Usually, it gets resolved. My x went to jail for repeated violations of the parenting time provisions of our order. The kids blamed me. I reminded them (in an age appropriate way, of course) that I do not have the authority, the means or the desire to put mom in jail. But, the judge does and that's what he did.
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This is what happens when two irresponsible parents can't resolve their differences and no amount of explanation can mend the damage of something like this. Bottom line, dad sent mom to jail. That's how the kids see it.
Good luck, you're on the right track.