What are the other online "gathering places" for your age demographic? What are the rules there? My initial hunch is that your rules will stifle participation. Kids use online in large part to get away from parental influence and hook up with their peers. If parents are interested into too many parts of the process, it won't fly.
One of our researchers looks at this stuff. I'm meeting with her at 3...maybe she'll have some insight. But you'll have to pay