Quote:
Originally posted by Schrup
I don't know if your comment was directed at my post, but having a list is a good idea! A therapist is the one who presented me with the idea to help me avoid some of the pitfalls from my past. It worked great, I eliminated about a dozen women & it helped me stay focused on the long term. I didn't get caught up in love or sex & was able to keep fairly objective. I believe I have a choice in who I fall in love with. I'm a little old for "Love at first sight".
I'd be curious what you base your opinion on.
|
Hi Paul. Your post did trigger the list issue however from your entire post it sounds like it was a good list. It's the guys/gals that carry those extreme lists who are doomed to fail, as you alluded to -
Quote:
|
On the other hand, I see guys with champagne tastes on a beer budget. They expect a 9, but are only capable of getting a 6. ... After that relationship, looks became less of a priority, although a smokin body was still high on the list. I didn't want a but'er face, but wanted a well rounded (figuratively) person.
|
We all have our own "lists" though I would not advise keeping one written down with grades on the current mate
I grew up with a guy in Santa Barbara who had impossibly high standards (no makeup yet must look like a model) yet was no ringer himself. Last time I checked he's 40+, single, and becoming a bitter old guy. Folks seem so torqued over physical appearance that they miss out on what it really means to love someone.
"Is her ass going to get bigger?". Let me save you the suspense - YES.
"Are her boobs going to droop?". YES.
"Are we going to have sex 4X a week after we get married?". Maybe, but most likely NO.
Are these bad things? Not if you're in love.