[wludavid]

Attraction is attraction - if something's missing for you then chances are good you're never going to find her super-attractive. IMO it's not shallow be concerned with appearances as long as that's not the only thing you're concerned about.

UNLESS (and this is important) you are being too critical. Unless you're being George from Seinfeld where you have a woman who is beautiful and wonderful and you're still unhappy. That can't be diagnosed over a internet forum so I doubt we can help much in determining if that's the case.