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Originally posted by john_colasante
Well, at first it sounded like you were saying "I fell in love with a woman over email and when I met her I found I was not physically attracted to her. Am I a bad man?" And we all said no you are not bad for that, move on.
But, now you are saying that you *are* attracted to her (lust) so I'm not sure what's wrong. And the thing about you helping her in the gym just doesn't seem right at this stage in your relationship. I don't know...
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You're correct, and my apologies.......I'm VERY appreciative of all of your feedback. I had to restate to give a better picture.....I'm sorry if I misspoke.........
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Originally posted by lendaddy
Chris, you are indeed the spitting image of the guys I was talking about. I'm NOT saying that makes you bad or any other crap. In fact I wish I could find the culprit that makes men feel/act this way (denying ourselves happiness). In the end that's what you're doing. Again I'm not telling you what you should do with this particular girl either way. You couldn't possibly give us enough info to say. What I'm trying to say is..strip away the superficial BS and ask yourself if she makes you happy and if you make her happy. We've already established that lust exists, so move on to the other stuff.
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Try the porn industry for one. I look at that crap probably way too much........and for the most part it's all a 'certain' type of girl......
But moving on.....stripping away all the superficial BS........all I can think of is how much she really fills my life with love, caring, support......intellectually challanging........makes me want to be a 'better person' she's amazing....really.........
And as for the gym comment.......I guess........I just like someone as fit as I am.....it's not that she doesn't like the gym, just that she get's discouraged easily when she hit's a slump. We all do physically, but it requires commitment...........which is what I feel that i should do with her.....commit to her.......
I hate that I'm even blurbing this ***** out on the net, but I wanted as much input as possible..........WHY DO I THINK LIKE THIS???
Sex sells. Great bodies sell. But that get's old..........REALLY quick......(i know i need help I know.......) have I answered your questions properly?