Here's the secret....
You know that chick at the party or in the store or in the apartment down the hall that certainly isn't "hot" but for some reason you can't stop looking at her? There's just something about her, maybe the eyes, the lips, the smile, the way she talks or walks, whatever. You know damn well your buddies would never call her hot either, but there's just something about her and you love it! Well, that's the one, that's the secret...the "something about her girl". Ok maybe not that particular one, but you get what I mean.
When you can take "something about her girl" to a party or get together with your buddies and not care what anyone thinks (not because you are trying not to, but because you really and truly don't care) then you have arrived.
Disclaimer: Lendaddy is not saying marry the first "something about her girl" you can, Lendaddy is just making a point...carry on.