I lived in the south, Alabama to be exact, for close to 3 yrs after college. I never felt like I didn't belong. As a matter of fact, racism was more an issue in Illinois when I was growing up and when I was in college. U of Illinois, over 35000 students of mixed background! A couple of drunk punks didn't want to leave a buddies house (party there), so we helped them leave, no punches drawn, but as they were walking away I got a "F'in dink!" I charged and got held back by my buddies, and they reminded me that we didn't want the cops to come to the house
Growing up in a poor area mixed with just about all colors, it is now surprising to me that I experienced/saw more racism then. My friends comprised a mixed of every race available in town.
I think racism is due more to up bringing than race itself. How far a person is from the poverty level plays a key part in their view of other races. Some racist poors may grow up to be richer, but some of their racist views will carry into there later life and unfortunately onto their kids. Ingorance is always a factor.
Nice handling the situ you posted about, Alfred. You're a better man than I am.