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Originally posted by Dennis Kalma
OK, I gotta ask the esteemed intelligentsia on this forum.
I have a friend, strictly platonic (I am married) who just announced to the world that she is pregnant. OK, fine, only odd thing is that she went out and got herself artificially inseminated as there was "no man in her life". Intent apparently is to raise the kid on her own.
I guess I am so shocked by this as she is one of the most intelligent people I have met, albeit somewhat of a flake....but isn't there enough kids being raised by single parents in the world already?
My thoughts are torn between walking away and never seeing her again or seeing what I can do to assist. Part of me thinks that this was the most selfish thing anyone could do (her opinion is that she always wanted to be a parent and have the fun of raising a kid) and the ultimate in narcissistic behaviour and part of me (the fundamentalist Christian part) helping her in spite of the mistake I think she has made.....
Are there other points of view? THoughts?
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Your point of view is exactly what mine is, and I'm as far from a fundamentalist Christian as can be.
A mother-father family is the best environment for a child. Narcissism does seem to be what's driving a lot of similar pregnancies/adoptions.
But why take it out on the kid?
By all means, help.
I have an ex- GF who, as a single mom, adopted two older Russian orphans a year and a half ago, and I try to involve myself in activities with them as much as I can. It's healthier for the kids to see even an occasional male role than to be only with mom, IMHO.