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Originally posted by Dennis Kalma


I guess I am so shocked by this as she is one of the most intelligent people I have met, albeit somewhat of a flake....

Well there ya go.

My thoughts are torn between walking away and never seeing her again

Why. She didn't kill or mame someone. Planning for a kid is better than letting one happen by accident.

or seeing what I can do to assist. Part of me thinks that this was the most selfish thing anyone could do (her opinion is that she always wanted to be a parent and have the fun of raising a kid) and the ultimate in narcissistic behaviour and part of me (the fundamentalist Christian part) helping her in spite of the mistake I think she has made.....

Are there other points of view? THoughts?

Hmm, the first option seems fairly unChristian-like to me. Just because she'll be a single parent doesn't mean the kid will turn out bad, just like two parents doesn't guaranty an angel. There are plenty of two parent families that turn out kids/people that are all kinds of messed up.

Is she a friend or an acquaintence? If the answer is friend then I would think that you need to work on yourself some before you worry about someone else's mistakes. If just an acquaintence then just don't worry about it. Love thy neighbor, there's someone else much more capable that will be the judge when the time comes.