[svandamme]

as a single mum kid, i'de say , don't get involved unless asked to be involved... and even then , keep a low profile, children will attach themselves to whoever is around... and will hurt more than an adult would if that one is suddenly not around, or not who he appeared to be...

there's nothing worse than a father figure who bails.

i'm 29 now, i'm still f#cked up
it's not my mothers fault
it's the ***** who pretended to be my dad from my 4 to my 13
i was told he wasn't my dad at the divorce i was 13, he bailed, and i still miss him more than i miss my mum, despite me knowing for fact that he was a rotten character...

whatever you do , do NOT pretend to be anything to the kid , when you are not that. be cool, supportive, do not bloody steal the show or show up when not specifically asked to show up... and if you're asked, be low profile ... some people do not understand , that low key , in these circumstances.. is more than gold, it's more than platinum... it's essential


don't talk untill you're asked to talk
don't assume anything
or judge