Isa,
Thank you for once again making me feel like a million bucks! So far (knock on wood), my daughter, who was going through a 'Goth' phase, is sweetness and light, compared to what you're dealing with.
Please note, at this stage you probably don't want to do her in and start over.
Well done on your Fairy Godmother work.
All the best to you and your family in the new year.
Les