[rbarton]

too much to go into here. what is she so angry about? Planning for 5 months without telling you? and you didn't realize something was up?

5 weeks, not months. What is so frustrating to me is that in the middle of January we had an mild argument that ended with my wife asking me to go to marriage counseling. I stupidly said no. Two weeks later, I found out that she was planning on leaving (after extensive communication with her best friend, who at the same time is ending her marriage). Every indication is that she started planning this after the argument 2 weeks prior. Finding out that she wanted to leave was a huge shock to my system and I immediately offered to go to counseling, or do whatever it took. She said absolutely not; it's over, and that's that.