On a more evolutionary, primitive level women as a group need to be in control of their immediate environment. Their reproductive success is dependent on them having control over the home (cave) and immediate family members. They are in charge at home cause they need to be able to nurse they offspring under optimal circumstances. They donīt get a "second chance".
Males, on the other hand, have a different biological strategy. Producing offspring with as many females as possible yields a plausible infant survival rate - even without that much of parental care.
Thus, females need to be in control. Males donīt (generally speaking).
As a personal side note, my spouse is a total control freak. The odd correctional beating does help though..
Sorry for ranting.