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Originally posted by cstreit
People can change, it's just a LOT of hard work.
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Yes, and the "work" is very simple, but NOT painless...because being under the influence of the drive to control is a symptom (as you say), not a cause.
Getting down to, and embracing, the cause is what is painful.
So only those who see it as self-defeating are willing to go there.
Not unlike an alcoholic (or any other addict) who "hits bottom."
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We all control, at some level.