My wife loves porn (lucky for me, eh).
As for being strong willed - my wife's indomitable. She's Italian and Scottish if that tells you anything. She's very independent, strong willed, and definitely has her opinions (which I consider a huge plus - no shrinking violets for me). However, she also knows that she cannot forcefully impose her will on me without creating resentment and destroying our marriage. That's not to say that she won't tell me in no uncertain terms how she feels about something - to put it mildly.