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Vin;

Forgot to mention the spouse part. My Mom was mad at him for getting into this 'fix'. She was mad because she felt he had robbed her of more time with him, and the almost constant care (un-rewarded in her view) that he required. Once we got him into a full time care facility (that specialized in AZ care), she started lightening up, and becoming Mom again. She was just overwhelmed. Exactly the same as your Mom. She needs as much help as he does. Get her a break (even forced)somehow, a day spa with him being babysat by one of you for the night.

You'd be amazed. Let her know you are aware what she is going thru, and that she is not going to have to go thru it alone.

M.