[livi]

Since we all seem to share each others troubled lives - here is mine.

My current spouse since the last six years have recently presented me with the following options: Marry me or leave me.

I have dodged her matrimonial cravings for a couple of years now, but this time she is dead serious. My reasons for not do it are multiple. I have been married before. Did not work out. My current spouse is an extremely hard headed woman. What ever ideas she gets in her head she does not hesitate to use the most cruel methods. Threatening with this and that to make me obey. The marriage is kind my last stance. She is also that kind of woman that regards my time, resources and money as hers - for her to dispose with as she sees fit. Disregarding my views and wishes. She also disregard my three kids from my former marriage. Disliking me spending time or money on them.

Problem is, besides the fact that I for some reason still have feelings for her, that we have a one year old daughter. She claims that if I chose to leave she will make everything she can in order to make it difficult for me to see my daughter. She also promises to make my life a living hell generally.

I at the end of my rope here. I feel like a puppet. She constantly crash down on my self esteem, especially as a father. If I leave she will regard it as me choosing to leave my daughter not willing to take care of her. This is also what she will tell all our friends and our daughter when she grows up. She claims I am hurting our daughter for not marrying her mother. I claim all she need is love and friendly minded parents. Married or not.

I just want to stay with them trying to make it work in a non married status. This is no option however. Its do or die.

Thanks for listening. Sorry for the long post.