[bigchillcar]

if nothing else, perhaps along the lines pat is mentioning, hide a tape recorder in your pocket to record all the retaliatory threats and expletives. don't know swedish laws concerning recording another party without their knowledge, but better to have and not need, than to need and not have. or if you know for a fact that it's inadmissable if she doesn't know about it, tell her the conversation's being recorded.
ryan