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Originally posted by bigchillcar
hide a tape recorder in your pocket to record all the retaliatory threats and expletives.
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Adding to what others have said...
If she's truly the way you have described, you could covertly audio tape her. Then edit the worst of what she says onto one tape. If it's not legally admissible in a future proceeding, it would be good to have - perhaps a couples counselor (and/or your own counselor) listening to it.
Many folks hide out, blame, and deceive in counseling - having evidence re: the reality could be beneficial...depending, of course, on her willingness to get off her position.
Also, in the event that you two go your separate ways and you later begin to reminisce about the "good" times you had w/her, listen to that (those) tapes. BTDT...it works.
If you do seek couples counseling, be prepared to be confronted with what you are doing/have done to contribute to the failed relationship.
The "dance" is not solo, it involves the neurosis of both parties.
We can only benefit by discovering our own...it's called *Maturation*.
First us, then a possibility with another human.
Ask yourself this: "What would I advise a son of mine to do?"
Good luck.