[Don Ro]

Markus,

Relax...'not tragic and not a loser.

Perhaps you're attracted to strong-willed women simply due to not yet having developed your own innate aspects of Will and Strength (not uncommon).
If so, at least you know the area within yourself needing attention.
That's good news, my man.
Frankly, most normal (not to be confused with 'healthy') folks select their mates based on their own subconscious sense of lack.

Also if so, now/then a strong-willed person can harbor an inclination towards dehumanization, etc.
Maybe your lady is one of those. (?)

The battle we'll always lose is the one we have w/ourselves, so have some empathy and compassion for yourself and your own development possibilities.
There's an entire new world waiting for you in there. Go get it - it's your birthright.