[onewhippedpuppy]

Livi, it seems to me you are in a situation that will only get worse, not only for your but for your children as well. If not for yourself, think of them, and what they feel watching the two of you interact this way. Of the way she treats your other kids. I can guarantee you one thing, the first step will be an incredibly empowering experience, you will begin to feel like a man again. Do it, and do it now, because this will only get worse for all of you if you don't give her what she wants. Get a plan in place, get started tomorrow. Then when the time is right, confront her, WITH A TAPE RECORDER!!!!! Joe is 100% right, if you leave God only knows what will happen. In fact, I would start to build evidence now. Get a small unit that you can carry in a pocket, and tape her tirades. At the least it would come in handy in the inevitable custody fight. And for the love of God, please don't leave without the kids. Don't walk out the door without that baby in your arms, because she is guaranteed to make their lives hell. If possible, get them out of the house before you confront her. The bigger the scene she makes, the better evidence you will have on tape. If she hits you, call the police. You're building evidence now, and everything you are able to get will help you with custody of that child. Good luck to you, but don't wait. This seems like a situation that could blow up at any time, I don't believe you can put this off.