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Originally posted by cool_chick
That's not why. It's because when you intervene, sometimes the partner you're talking to gets angry at YOU because (s)he is brainwashed or smitten or whatever by the nightmare person and then becomes your enemy. You need be there for them when they realize it, but they need to come to terms on their own.
Happened to me once. Never again.
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Ditto. I truthfully answered the question "What do you think?" and lost a close friend. It didn't help when I was proven right and the relationship ended within a month. Still, how good a friend is someone that will toss 10 years of friendship out the window for someone they've known a couple of months?
On the other hand, it did teach me to trust my friends' judgement when they do say something, or at least ask why they feel that way. Like me, most people want to see their friends happy with someone that loves them - if they don't like someone, they're usually seeing something you don't.