[bigchillcar]

livi..at least you won't make the same mistake a good friend of mine of 20 years + did 2 weeks ago. he's suffered from manic depression and his wife of 10 years had had enough and filed divorce papers, seeking full-custody. the idea of his not being able to see his boys, 4 and 8, more than a couple hours a week were too much during his depressed state. he took his own life and left a wake of sorrow behind. i said his eulogy. now his boys won't have him at all. i sympathized with his plight, but some time would have beaten the hell out of 'no time'. i know that this isn't your mind state, sounds like you're making the right decisions for everyone involved. eventually things should calm down between you and the gf and everyone can move forward with their lives. be strong, be firm..say only as much as you have to..avoid more confrontations with her..avoid being alone with her for this to happen. keep focused on the good of your kids. they'll certainly be better off on the long run not witnessing constant fighting and bickering between their parents. staying together for the sake of the kids does no good if the parents are a living example of what not to do..and then it gets passed on to their generation. you're doing a brave, loving thing for your kids..you're putting their emotional health first, above all else. you are to be commended.
ryan