No difference - but it really depends on the state. California and Florida are pretty similiar as far as that goes.
Pretty sure the 1st ex Mrs JeremyD went lesbo a go go after the divorce... If she would have brought a friend over earlier we might have figured out a way to make it work...
In CA (and Florida) my only advice would be to just sell all the crap and split down the middle. Not worth fighting over values of stuff - the lawyers just get rich off the effort.