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I have a 16 yr old daughter from a previous marriage and a 2 1/2 from my current marriage. My wife would like another child. I'm not convinced this is what I want. She really really wants another and we had discussed two or more when we were getting started but now the reality has set in and I've got cold feet. With my oldest starting college in 2 years and a job change looming in late August, world politics, lack of intimacy (both physically and emotionally) due to busy lives that we both lead, I'm bummed on the prospect of another child. I love both my children and wife wholly and completely but am reluctant to start again. I just hit 40 in July and am wondering if any other have had a similar experience. I told her about a week ago my feelings and she was very hurt. This will be messy for a long time. See what the Pelican brotherhood comes up with.