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I feel for you. Interestingly, I am in almost the exact same situation as you. I have a 16 year old son from a previous marriage and a 2 1/2 old daughter with my wife now. I'm turning 42 next week. We talked early on (my current wife and I) about having two kids. That was kind of the plan all along. In a strange twist of fate, though, *she* is the one that has decided that we should stop now. She doesn't want any more. I'm fine with that for all of the reasons that you're citing for not having any more.

I hope you can work this out as I *know* the friction this could cause. Have you explored the reasons why she wants another? Is it for her or so that your 2 1/2 year old will have a sibling? Many people have told my wife and I that we need to have another one so our daughter will grow up with a brother or sister. I say baloney. Our view is that you have kids (or more of them) because *you* want them - not because you feel pressure to have them or feel guilty.

Good luck.

Mike