[Jims5543]

My wifes Grandfather will go soon. I have lost my grandfather on my moms side and my grandmother. All in their 80's.

I have been to funerals for all of them. I have also been to a funeral for a 18 y/o cousin and a good friend who was 53.

Maybe its just me but when they are in their late 80's early 90's the funeral should be a celebration of the wonderfu life they have lived and how they have touched everyones lives. More so the legacy they are leaving behind.

I was not so sad at my Grandparents funerals. Sure it hurt and I missed them but it was not tragedy. It was expected. They were in pain and even though they try to hide it not enjoying life too much anymore.

My wifes grandfather turned to me last weekend and informed me he declined corrective surgery on his heart for a faulty valve. He looked me straight in the eyes and said he was done and wated to rest in peace. He is tired of all the pain and wants it to stop. That made me more sad than when he dies. When he dies he will be in peace.

My prayers are with you and I hope you can find a moment to reflect on their lives and smile, they would want you to smile.