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One of the keys to staying sane is understanding our limitations. We are not responsible for the happiness of others. Nor are we responsible for the decisions that other's make.
Now if we misrepresent something and someone makes a decision based mostly on our information, I suppose you might feel some twinge of guilt, but in the end an individual is responsible for their own decisions. So I think you should try and put the thoughts out of your head.
I am struggling with similar issues right now. Part of me thinks that I shouldn't have let my g/f on the back of the bike without full gear (I did give her helmet, gloves, and my armored leather jacket). That I should have been insistent of tried to "scare her" with the reality of going down on a bike. But we've talked about it, and she says the same thing: it was her decision. She took the risk. Eyes open.
The bottom line is that ***** happens. And we all make decisions on risk/reward. But second guessing does no one any good. The only thing you can do is try and learn from the lessons that the universe sends. Some of us can learn from others. Some of us require more drastic intervention. But in the end it is your life, his life, my life. We make our own destiny and our own choices, and live with the consequences.
The other way to think about it is: you are not God. God may have some responsibility for everyone and what they think/do. But you are just a man, and only in charge of your own life.
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