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Very very very risky, the older they are.
A friend adopted a 9 m.o. Chinese girl, great experience all around. She's a wonderful kid in every way. The only holdover issue they had was that she would panic cry when left in a crib. Apparently orphanages leave the kids in cribs alone way too much.
OTOH, friends of my parents had a very different experience adopting from Russia. They did all the right research, paid lots of money, etc, and the orphanage that looked and sounded great turned out to be a hellhole of neglect. The child they were supposed to adopt was malnourished to the point of brain damage and barely responded to people. A horrifying experience.
Personally I find it infuriating that these countries that can't even care for their own children put so many barriers and costs in the way of loving families adopting their unwanted. Russia and China should be paying American families to adopt their kids, not the other way around.
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