[stomachmonkey]

Same as my old man. Old carrer military guys are tough m'fers.

Which is the problem. You find out about problems way too late. My dad passed away in August. His affairs were not as neat and tidy as I had imagined they would be. Finally got the probate paperwork last week, almost 3 months after he passed. In the meantime I'm hemoraging cash like crazy on funeral, lawyers, the house, helping out his girlfriend etc...

First ten days he was gone cost me $10,000.

I know it's not the way he wanted things to go down but when they get old they think they know everything and don't want to burden you so they start to do stupid stuff, all with the best intentions of course.

I encourage anyone with elder parents to FORCE them to sit down and go thru all thier paperwork. At minimum get someones name in trust on the bank accounts so you can immediately shut off the financial machine after they pass away or you end up with a mess.

Sounds cold but it's a reality, nightmare that I've been dealing with for a while now.

Scott