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Grady, there is no doubt you have a lot to offer this yound man. He may be 30+, but if he has had the tough life you describe, his decision-making capabilities are probably those of a teen, not an adult. Be ready for that and use it as a baseline in interacting with him and measuring your expectations.
Change is process, not an event. And while you can certainly *give* him a lot, the plain truth is that for this fellow to really grow and mature, he has to earn his way. And that's really the tough part of the whole thing: how do you help him without just making him your own, personal welfare state?
I like what Don said a lot. there's no substitute for quality time over a good meal on a regular basis where you can catch up as well as help him over some rough spots that will be inevitable. To really make a difference in this boy's life, you've got to invest yourself in the relationship. It's the only way that either of you will realize ROI on anything (job, a little spending $, etc.) you give him.
God Bless both of you.
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