[livi]

This is a multi layer situation. There is him and there are you. His needs and yours. Do not look upon yourself as an 100% altruistic giver.

Find out as much as you can about his motives / hopes / wishes.

Look into your heart. What would be your own personal true wish in this situation ? There are no obvious rules in this context. One person reaching out to another. Go by your heart. You are the only one in a position to know what you want / should do.

You strike me as a person with a large amount of good conscience, big heart and intelligence.

You and him will likely find yourselves facing obstacles, but I am convinced you have the competence and capacity to do what is best for both of you. Have faith in your own ability. Itīs there.

Good luck and excuse my bad English.