[mikester]

Originally posted by Porsche-O-Phile
I'll probably get flamed for being the dissenter here, but here goes:

I admire your charity, but you're probably being taken advantage of. I'd perhaps help him get set up with a job, but tell him in no uncertain terms that's where the generousity ends. He's not sleeping in your place, you're not giving him money, you're not giving him a car, etc.

I hate to take such a "trust nobody" attitude, but there are too many people out there that skate through life by doing nothing other than taking advantage of peoples' guilt and generousity.

Haven't you done enough for this guy already? I mean, if you gave him months and years and he's (obviously) done nothing with it other than get in fights and get busted for DUIs (and who-knows-what-else), isn't that evidence enough that any gifts you bestow upon him will be a wasted effort?

I'd help him get a job, but not one you stand to lose YOUR reputation on, if you know what I mean. It's up to him (at age 30+) to make his own way in life - not constantly depend on prop-ups and handouts from those of us that have already figured that out and done it for ourselves. . .

People expect not to do this themselves but that the government should for them. What he is doing is admirable and if more people did there would be less of the people you're afraid of.