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Originally posted by Walter_Middie
Stomach,
It sounds like he has ADHD. A lot of people have this that either don't realize it, or just ignore it. Typical symptoms are just what you described - can't keep a job or a relationship. It's always someone else's fault. They often times don't realize that what they are doing is inappropriate. They can be fun to be around, but a pain when it comes time to count on them. Don't be too hard on him - he won't understand, and blame you anyway. Just find an excuse not to have him finish the job. Keep him as a friend - but remember where to draw the line. I deal with this everyday - too much. It's difficult to keep your perspective and sense of humor.
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One problem is his parents spoiled him. I remember sitting around one night with his father. My friend was complaining about his current job situation and how he was butting heads with his boss. I said to him "it's not your business, the guy had it before you came along and probably does not appreciate a 2 week old employee telling him that he's doing everything wrong. Why can't you just go in and work like he's paying you to?" His father says, "he was raised to be a boss, not a worker"
The other problem which I really believe is at root of this, when he took the silver spoon out of his mouth it went into his nose.
He was in rehab a long time ago and I'm pretty sure he's fallen off the wagon. We were roommates when he was using heavily, (which is why I moved out) I recognize the signs.
Scott