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My neighbors across the street moved in about six months after I did. They don't have any kids. From what I gather they dated for about 4 years and got married two years ago...

The guy and I are casual friends. We'd often wander over to the other's garage with two beers in hand to chat if the other was around. I would initially have described them as a barfly couple.

The fall after they moved in, we all gave a triathlon a try for fun. The neighbor-wife changed big time. She trained hard during the winter/spring/summer. She had some sort of chart with the pictures of all of the women who beat her with X's through them. The next year at the triathlon, she won her class. Everyone else in the group (myself included) did about the same. She started doing more triathlons, and duathlons, and marathons. She was gone almost every weekend doing some competition.

The neighbor-guy stayed the same person.

This fall, when discussing the triathlon, the neighbor-guy informed me that he was not going to attend as he and his wife were breaking up. He moved out about two months later. The very next weekend, some new guy moves in--I recognize him from the triathlon!!!

So now, I'm in an awkward place. I don't want to start a war with my neighbors, but it's painfully obvious what has happened. I don't approve of the behavior, but most of all, I don't want to betray my friendship with the neighbor-guy by appearing to accept the neighbor-wife's choices. So far, I have simply gone out of my way to avoid the wife and her boy-toy. I know I won't be successful forever.