[Grady Clay]

Guys,

The most difficult situation that I don’t know how to deal with is when NV gets upset. He gets frustrated with his situation and starts to take it out on me. My normal response is to remind him that he contacted me first and that I care. I then go to listening to the issues and proposing possible solutions. Every time I remind him of the consequences, he says he is willing to go to prison.

I see this as escapism from reality. My only response is to remind him that prison is bad. He doesn’t think so. I then remind him that life is better outside jail. He agrees.

What is REALLY FRUSTRATING for me is that he sees life on the “outside” so onerous compared to imprisonment. That is an unbelievable state of affairs. I see the cause as his perception he can’t earn enough to even live or eat.

I see a possible solution is to provide him an organized solution. I can think up all the details. The critical issue is to cover all the bases. Should I do it?

I understand this may be a total failure. The goal is to prevent that. If it doesn’t work, there should still be alternatives. This cannot be a "do ot die."

Best,
Grady