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Originally posted by Grady Clay
Every time I remind him of the consequences, he says he is willing to go to prison.
I see this as escapism from reality. My only response is to remind him that prison is bad. He doesn’t think so. I then remind him that life is better outside jail. He agrees.
What is REALLY FRUSTRATING for me is that he sees life on the “outside” so onerous compared to imprisonment. That is an unbelievable state of affairs. I see the cause as his perception he can’t earn enough to even live or eat.
I see a possible solution is to provide him an organized solution. I can think up all the details. The critical issue is to cover all the bases. Should I do it?
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to me that sounds like he could be insecure, afraid of the unknown, an unable to project his own future and fantasize about good things to come, to make plans and to work up to them... think of it as long term ADD
prison is a guaranteed thing , something he knows, understands what to expect from it, and how to deal with it...it is afterall a state of reduced requirements when it comes to thinking for ones self... no need to plan much...
it might help , to set some fun goals, with a calender to cross out "days till this or that", with an actual picture of what that thing is...it doesn't have to be big, but something tangible
i've helped people who had dept problems and couldn't work it out like this, xls sheet , with all the dues in calender form, and a fully automated calculation
so they do the monthly budget , and diligently log everything in it
as they fill it in , after a few months a routine sets in , and they learn to recognise that , actions done now, have a postive or negative effect, they learn to mange debt, and to plan their own rewards as well...
dunno how this fits in with NV, or how you can package and sell the idea, but i know this does work for people who can't project things and feel powerless about their own destiny...teaches them to deal with things, i used a similar thing to quit smoking, xls sheet with days, and a list of milestones based on clinical moments ( 20 mintes, bloodpressure drops, 2 days no more nicotine trces,,, etc etc week , 2 weeks, 3 weeks, month ,2 months ... 5 months...