[svandamme]

distance can help , if there is a clear agitator
worked for me , i needed distance from my own mum

went incomunicado for 3 straight years, only recently reconnected with the familly , not my mum, i can be in the same room ,but i will not talk, there's no point in doing so

but that's a case of a close relation ship that simply was destructive, that's the only reason why it was necessary

that's just one way for one problem
there are many ways and each problem/person needs his own tailormade combination of luck and coincidence...


how about a pet? does he like animals? beeing alone in the evening , nobody to go home to is a mental killer, having one little critter waiting for you at home makes a huge difference...

does he eat well? good food isn't difficult to make , takes some time, cooking can be therapeutic in it's own right... make soup, vitamins.... nobody will feel right on a diet of junkfood...