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Originally posted by MRM
There's some thought that it's a little easier for a white guy to marry a non-white woman than for a white woman to marry a non-white guy. The thinking is that since white is the dominant race, and male is the dominant sex, the white guy is expected to be the leader, which is probably typical, even in these enlightened times. But when you have a white woman marrying a non-white guy, you have an uncomfortable mix of the dominant race with the non-dominant sex.
All I can say from my experience is that other than my racist and xenophobic family (who I don't see any more) I have had no problems marrying a Chinese wife. My wife and I are both successfull professionals and no one bats an eye at us, once they realize the six and a half foot white guy is with the 5 foot tall Chinese girl.
If I were a Chinese man and had married an equally educated and professional white woman, I'm not sure things would be as easy for me.
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I always thought it was more of a "more for me, less for them deal." White man seem to have less of a problem with white men and black women, then black men and white women. It's a your taking our women thing, and black men seem to feel the same way about white men marrying black women.
This is a generalization and I really don't think any one should care what race another persons spouse is. I know my wife was asked several times, always by black men, "what couldn't you find any decent black men, and had to pick a white one?"
I've seen a quite a bit of prejudice since I married my wife, but screw 'em. Her and my son are more important to me than the bigoted members of either one of our families.
Both the husband and wife just need to cut the ties to the members of the family that aren't supportive and decide their spouse is more important than some outdated ideas about race. Easier said than done, but I don't think any marriage is ever easy all the time.