[notfarnow]

Bit of an awkward situation. Last year my wife asked me if her 24 yr old sister could live with us for a year. She had been living with her mom, who is a world class narcissist, but had to move out due to the non-stop chaos and fights. She was saving for school, so couldn't really afford an apartment. I was hesitant, because she is a bit flakey and not very considerate, and I suspected it meant her boyfriend would be over all the time too.

So, we said yes and laid down some basic rules. It was a "room and board" situation, not roommates. Her boyfriend was welcome to come by on occasion, but would not be living with us.

Well, within a couple weeks it was sour. She would run the dryer for a pair of socks. Leave the heat at 80* with windows open. Her boyfriend was over every night. I'd go to get in the shower and the bathroom would be busy because they had gotten up late. They would park in front of the garage every day. It was a non-stop PITA. If we brought anything up, she would get defensive and sometimes cry.

After a while we got things down to a low boil, but it was like living with a friggin teenager. Not cool. A couple times we had sit downs with her, she'd storm out and say she was getting an apartment. I'd say "cool, you can borrow my truck", but wifey and her sister would smooth things out. By spring, we were going to boot her out, but she got accepted to a Pharmacy program 200 miles away.

Well, now she wants to move back for the summer. Wifey feels bad because they are very close, and her sister would be all alone for the summer if she stayed where she is. I said no way, she was horrible to live with and I don't care to go through that again.

Am I being a hard ass?

I already know the first two questions you are going to ask. #1, yes. #2, NO!