Jim,
As Chris mentioned, our 2yo has eczema - had it since he was born and it got worse as he started eating rice cereal at 6months... it got so severe that a steroid cream was prescribed when he was about 8months old.
Fast forward to now...
I use unscented "no additives" detergent ... no softener ...
unscented dryer sheet - NO DREFT
Bath time: Cetaphil and Dove UNscented white soap
The perfumes and additives of other soaps were agitators...
Cetaphil lotion - lots of lotion on his skin
If it's a really really dry spot, a little chapstick helps too
I've tried lots of other lotions but they contain lanolin
and other products that irritated Wyatt's skin
Now it's manageable with a little Hydrocortisone every now and then.
ALSO - everytime he eats rice, he breaks out with eczema
and also get a wicked diaper rash...
(this I don't understand considering he's 1/2 asian!!)
Glad to hear that your 3yo is better!!!