[Overpaid Slacker]

This is the typical dinner conversation, with EVERY girlfriend I've ever had:

Me: I don't feel like cooking, so let's order in or eat out tonight. What do you feel like?

Her: Well, we could get pizza. Or Chinese. We haven't had [name of Restaurant] in a while...

Me: Um. I know what our options are. Which of them would you like?

(this is where the verbal volleyball begins, with her doing everything possible to avoid a decision ... which usually winds up with something like)

Her: Well, what do you feel like?

Me: Having you make a decision. For once.

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Alternatively, knowing she won't make a decision, and trying to avoid the foregoing "conversation", I try to take all the "pressure" off of her and toss this over the fence:

Me: Hey, I don't feel like cooking, how about Chinese tonight?

Her: uhhhhhmmmmmmm...... I don't feeeel like Chinese tonight.

Me: (upbeat, not that big a deal). OK, how 'bout pizza?

Her: uhhhhhhmmmmmmmmm.... I had pizza for lunch/yesterday/3 weeks ago

Me: OK, rather than shooting down everything I say, without offering an alternative... which must be fun.*.. how about you come up with an acceptable option...

Her: Well, we could get Italian... or Mexican... we haven't had (name of restaurant) in a while ....

and we're sliding back into the abyss.

Now, here's the thing. This actually upsets me. And I mention that it upsets me... in case my tone/inflection aren't getting the point across. But it doesn't change.

So then, when I get the "Why do you do X" when you know it bothers me speech. I ask why she can't -- actually WON'T -- do something as simple as select what to have for dinner.

Her: "I didn't know that bothered you so much..."

Yeah.

JP

* I pulled this stunt once on a grilf notorious for pulling this shyt.. making increasingly lame excuses for why this option or that option of hers wasn't perfect. She almost killed me.