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Originally posted by Dueller
I feel your pain....but...
In the first exchange you lost control.... I really think you should have let it go that she didn't ask him to call you.
In the second exchange, you made the mistake of not definitively stating you did mnot want to go on impulse...Your first statement was "Well, we could go tonight, but...."
Just say what you mean and be done with it. I bet she can deal with it better than you give her credit. Although the unjustified "You're saying I'm stupid..." is a bit melodramatic on her part.
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On the first point -- you're right. And here's why. I HATE text messaging. Almost as much as I HATE being on the phone. So when it took more than 2 msgs to wrap things up, I got pissed and said "as long as I'm texting, it's going to be cathartic for me!"
It is a CONSTANT that she will send half of the information, apparently oblivious to the fact that I'll have to write back with a request for the other half
that it's freaking obvious that I'm going to need, so why not include it in the first dayum place. BTW, I like that "Dayum"!
2nd -- I was actually on the fence about going. It would be nice to get it over with, and least inconvenient to go today (and she had the time off this weekend) but I really didn't feel up to it. For reasons I'll post in another thread later. If she'd wanted to go tonight, really really, I would be on the road right now.
But, whether she wanted to or not got lost in the short-circuit in our communication that pissed me off -- AGAIN! Once she'd said "black" when I said "white" --- and then told me I said "black" the underlying issue of whether we were going
anywhere this weekend was a distant memory.
In my defense, I do say what I mean. Too much/forceably so perhaps, but in the 2nd instance I was trying to lay out that what I meant was I was on the fence.
Moses - I'm w/ you. I prefer ginmills to
haute cuisine... and 99% of the time I'd rather sit at the bar and eat. Fortunately the current grilf is like that as well.
On the whole, she's a great girl and we have a great rel. But this is one of those things that has to change. Get the clue. Learn from the friction, etc. Gotta happen.
JP