[Dan in Pasadena]

Without reading all three pages? I was married 3 weeks short of 20 years and it was occasionally just like you posted. I have been in a committed live-in relationship with my girlfriend for 6 years and it has NEVER been like you posted. My take from very limited experience (admittedly) "If you can't communicate with them when they're your girlfriend do you really expect it to get better? How about after 10, 20 or 30 years? Uh ,no.

The diff? My wife was a girl with 1 year experience 20 times over. My girlfriend is a woman who is interested in communicating with me, not being right. Best of luck!