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Guys want action. Women want romance.
If you ask, "Where would you like to eat?", she is probably just happy to get on the road and be surprised by how thoughtful you are. By asking her to choose, you are making her responsible for the decision/meal/evening. She doesn't want that. Also, she doesn't want the same thing you had yesterday, because that denotes lack of thought. If you take her to the same place, she asks herself if the romance is gone. I like things I know I will like, I have learned to cast my food appreciation further afield to show her I'm interested in more than the food.
I used to get the same thing when asking my bride of thirty years what movie she would like to watch. I used to feel I was doing her a favour by asking her preference. She hated that.
It's about the experience and the conversation. The 'stream of consciousness' comments are pretty close in my experience. It is not the destination, but the journey, to them.
Les
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Les
My train of thought has been replaced by a bumper car.
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